The Narcissist-Part 2

My thoughts on narcissism...

I am not an expert and do not claim to be.  

That being said, I certainly carry an opinion, and want to freely express it.

Thank you so much for reading!!

If you have not read part 1, please feel free to.

Many people believe that a narcissist cannot change. Everything I have ever read about a narcissist leans in that direction. I vehemently disagree with the fact that a narcissist cannot change. 

Narcissists use coping mechanisms to protect themselves from pain and to hide their fears.

Pain and fear are root causes for their wrong actions.

Like any coping mechanism, what is learned can be unlearned. It is just more difficult for some than it is for others. The willingness must be there.

Characteristically, the narcissist hides his real self from others because, he does not like himself and is not satisfied with himself.

He hates himself so much that he hides himself under layers and layers of the fake self that he has created. He has buried himself so deep that sometimes he cannot remember who he really is and it is easy for him to convince himself of a lie.

He does not mind if someone criticizes his fake self because that is something that he can change. (This is important to know.) However, he cannot emotionally handle criticism of his real self, because he can do nothing to change it. That is the only thing that he feels he cannot change and that is why he will never make himself vulnerable in that way. He does not approve of the way God created him, perhaps. He would have done it differently, perhaps. He must protect himself.

This is one reason that some narcissists, secretly, do not respect God. They cannot manipulate Him.

Trying to get to the real self of a narcissist is like cracking a walnut. You have to crack through the outer shell while trying to preserve the good within.

Trust is also an issue. 

A narcissist trusts in his own judgment. Others are inferior and unsatisfactory. He trusts in his own beliefs. Others fall short of his expectations. 

Know this, though. There are no boundaries or barriers that the love of God cannot cross. God, who created all beings, knows just how to reach the narcissist.

I would like to share with you just a few of the prayers that I have learned to pray for the narcissist. I will just say he in these examples, although the narcissist you know may be a "she".

• God, please allow him to recognize You as sovereign. 
• Cause Him to trust you with his life.
  
• God, please let him recognize his need for You and see himself the way you see him.
• Let him know that he is fearfully and wonderfully made. 
• Allow him to see that you love him unconditionally and that love is not based on performance.
  
• God, teach him how to relate to others.
• Cause him to love You and others more than himself.
• God, I pray that if he pursues anyone with ill intentions and purposes, that you will frustrate his plans, sever the ties and put up road blocks to stop his schemes.
• Stop his plan to harm others.
  
• Please separate the truth from the lies.

• Please take away the fear that he hides in his heart, so that he will not strike out at others.

 

These are just a few prayers and a few thoughts. 

I would love to know your thoughts.

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